Adulterous chemistry….!!

Off late I have been thinking about the chemistry between man and woman...oh please don’t misunderstand me...this is not another ‘men are from mars and women are from Venus’ forum...nor it is about the "C" word...

I am simply going to talk about few things which always put me into contradictory thinking...

Yesterday when I was having lunch with my friend who is married. He was gaping at one gorgeous female (by the way the most gorgeous one has recently resigned and left to somewhere near mumbai...) and I just happen to say " abe teri to shaadi ho gai hai fir tu kyon use ghoor raha hai?" then he said “lets argue on this after your marriage...and as of now don’t disturb me. She is damn hot!!”

SO is it that the chemistry should stop playing its natural role after you get committed to one person!! Or is it just our SOCIETY! Isn’t this natural pull which we feel….Which some people have named as 'infidelity' in moral dictionary...or is it just, we all can’t break this barrier created inside our brains....?

Everyone will agree that regardless of commitment/marriage....we all feel something called " attraction " every now and then, towards the opposite sex ...but we just feel it...enjoy it silently deep inside, and forget it....without letting our partner know about it.


If it is condemned to be unfaithful in action then doesn’t same apply to THOUGHTS tooo...can anyone control our mental reflexes?...these short lived chemical reactions in our brain?.. The question here is “can you control this yourself?" and I believe the answer is NO for most of us....it can be suppressed but never can be stopped from coming....because we don’t even know when will it happen….nature is always unpredictable.

Now can someone explain....or draw the line between what is morally correct and what is not?? And if someone wants to draw this line...then who the hell are they?? And why should we give this right to them.

The battle is between natural instincts and social system. And this battle will always go on for another million years...till humans come up with a new social system which is based on natural rights rather than man made hollow morals...

Am not a rebel....I too feel that we should be like the way we are...but every time I happen to face this MALE inside me…in situations like, seeing a gorgeous girl, lady, actress anything that is Human +Opposite sex +Sexy in short. I too feel that chemistry and then forget about it after a while…since am single may be I still have the freedom to go beyond just feeling that chemistry (according to our hypocrite society)…..But anyone married in my place (or if the opposite sex is married)…then the game ends there itself.

And why can’t we expect our partners to be LOYAL (I mean those who don’t go beyond feeling the chemistry), when we too behave the same way and control our natural instincts infinite times in our life.

You might be feeling I sound like a confused person, who agrees to society also….wants his partner to be loyal also and on the other hand want to concord with his natural instincts too… Now this is the contradictory thinking I was talking about in the start. Don’t you people also feel the same? Haven’t anyone of you given a thought to this???
Ha ha….I know someone might say we can’t just go ahead and live a jungle life when we are staying in a society. My friend if we cant live in a jungle then just tell me one thing…where to draw the line while defining ‘infidelity’…Or where to draw the line between mental and physical actions without being called a hypocrite???

I can talk nonstop about my crazy thoughts on this topic……but will stop here. May be there is no end to this contradiction..........